2026-04-12
Call Me by Your Name
Call Me by Your Name (《请以你的名字呼唤我》) — Basics
• Author: André Aciman (Italian-American writer)
• First published: 2007
• Genre: Coming-of-age, romance, LGBTQ+ literature
• Setting: Summer 1983, in a seaside villa in the Italian Riviera
Story
• Narrator: Elio Perlman, 17, intelligent, introspective, Jewish-American living in Italy
• Oliver: 24-year-old American scholar, visiting Elio’s father (a professor) for 6 weeks
• Plot:
◦ Elio is immediately drawn to Oliver’s confident, laid-back charm.
◦ A slow, tense, obsessive attraction grows—full of doubt, longing, and quiet moments.
◦ They fall deeply in love over the summer: swimming, talking, reading, walking in town.
◦ The title line: “Call me by your name, and I’ll call you by mine” — their intimate vow of merging identities.
◦ The novel spans that summer and 20 years after, tracking how this love shapes Elio’s life.
Style & Tone
• Lyrical, poetic, intensely internal (Elio’s thoughts)
• Sensual: full of heat, sunlight, fruit, touch, music, memory
• Bittersweet: first love, urgency, transience, and lifelong longing
Awards & Adaptation
• Lambda Literary Award for Fiction
• Adapted into the 2017 Oscar-winning film (Luca Guadagnino, Timothée Chalamet, Armie Hammer)
• Sequel: Find Me (2019) continues their story
Why it’s beloved
• It captures first love in its purest, most painful, most beautiful form.
• Universal feeling—beyond gender or orientation.
• The Italian summer setting feels like a dream you never want to leave.
Here are some of the most beautiful, iconic quotes from Call Me by Your Name — poetic, tender, and unforgettable:
1. The title line
Call me by your name and I’ll call you by mine.
2. About that summer feeling
We had everything we ever wanted and we didn’t even know it.
3. About longing
To feel nothing so that I wouldn’t feel anything else.
4. About time and memory
Time makes us sentimental. Perhaps, in the end, it is because of time that we suffer.
5. Elio on his feelings for Oliver
I stopped time. All I cared about was that I had stopped time.
6. About love and identity
I think you’re the only person I could ever love like this.
7. The father’s beautiful wisdom
We rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster, that we go bankrupt by the age of thirty.
Just feel it. Feel what you’re feeling.
8. About remembering
I remember everything.
9. About closeness
I wanted to tell him that I was home, that I had never been so at home anywhere in the world.
10. One of the most famous lines
Nature had come into my own home and had laid claim to me.
Here are more iconic, lyrical quotes from Call Me by Your Name, with both English and Chinese translation for you:
Call me by your name and I’ll call you by mine.
请以你的名字呼唤我，我亦将以我的名字呼唤你。
We found each other. That’s all.
我们找到了彼此，仅此而已。
I wanted to tell him that I didn’t care about being happy.
I just wanted to be with him.
我想告诉他，我不在乎快不快乐，我只想和他在一起。
To be with him, I would have done anything.
为了和他在一起，我愿意做任何事。
He was my secret, my shame, my joy, my everything.
他是我的秘密，我的羞怯，我的欢喜，我的全部。
I remember everything.
Everything.
我记得一切，所有的一切。
We belonged to each other then, and no one else’s.
那时我们只属于彼此，不属于任何人。
Our hearts were too big for our bodies.
我们的心跳太盛，盛得连身体都装不下。
Love that was too much, too strong, too soon, too everything.
这份爱太满、太烈、来得太早，太过一切。
The world around us melted away.
周遭的世界都融化消失了。
I would have given anything to keep the summer from ending.
我愿付出一切，留住这个永不落幕的夏天。
You’re the only one I’ve ever loved like this.
And you’re the only one I ever will.
你是我唯一这样爱过的人，也会是最后一个。
Full Speech by Elio’s Father
(The most moving passage in Call Me by Your Name)
Our hearts and our bodies are given to us only once.
And before you know it, your heart’s worn out.
And as for your body, there comes a point when no one looks at it, much less wants to come near it.
Right now there’s sorrow—pain.
Don’t kill it and with it the joy you’ve felt.
We rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster,
that we go bankrupt by the age of thirty
and have less to offer each time we start with someone new.
But to feel nothing so as not to feel anything—what a waste!
How you live your life is your business.
But remember,
our hearts and bodies are given to us only once.
中文翻译
我们的心和身体，此生只拥有一次。
不知不觉间，心就已疲惫不堪。
至于身体，终有一天，无人再注视，更无人再靠近。
此刻你有悲伤，有痛苦。
别抹杀这份感受，也别一并抹杀你曾拥有过的快乐。
为了更快痊愈，我们亲手割裂掉太多自我，
还不到三十岁就已心力交瘁，
每一次重新开始，能付出的真心都越来越少。
可若为了不再痛苦，就选择麻木无感——那才是真正的浪费。
你如何过一生，是你自己的事。
但请记住：
我们的心和身体，此生只拥有一次。
Puquena
Frases Clássicas de Poeira Pequena (微尘) - Versão em Português
1. Mesmo nos ossos mais humildes, há rios que correm.
(再低微的骨头里也有江河。)
2. Todos somos pó, levados pelo vento, passageiros neste mundo.
(我们都是微尘，被风吹着，在人间晃一晃。)
3. A vida é dura, mas se não te inclinares, ela nunca te esmagará.
(生活这个东西，你不低头，它就永远压不垮你。)
4. O sofrimento do mundo é, em grande parte, silencioso.
(人间的苦，大多是无声的。)
5. Vivo na poeira, mas também amo na poeira.
(我在尘埃里活着，也在尘埃里爱着。)
6. O destino não é mais do que lutar na terra e encontrar a paz na terra.
(所谓命运，不过是在尘土里挣扎，在尘土里安生。)
7. Viver é mastigar o amargo, engolir e seguir em frente.
(人活着，就是把苦嚼碎了，咽下去，再继续往前走。)
8. Cada vida simples tem um peso desconhecido.
(每一个平凡的生命，都有不为人知的重量。)
9. A terra é silenciosa, mas acolhe todos os sofrimentos e glórias.
(大地沉默，却收留所有苦难与荣光。)
10. Somos pequenos como o pó, mas juntos formamos o mundo.
(尘埃虽小，聚在一起，便是人间。)
Aqui tens mais frases marcantes do livro Poeira Pequena (微尘) em português, fiel ao tom original:
1. A vida dos mais humildes não é menos valiosa por ser simples.
2. Mesmo no meio do sofrimento, ainda guardamos um pedaço de ternura.
3. Ninguém vê o suor e as lágrimas que caem na escuridão.
4. Somos pequenos, mas lutamos para viver com dignidade.
5. O tempo passa, a terra continua, e as nossas histórias ficam no vento.
6. Não somos heróis, apenas pessoas que não desistem de viver.
7. O sofrimento cala muitos, mas não consegue apagar a alma.
8. Cada dia que sobrevivemos, já é uma pequena vitória.
9. A vida é dura, mas o coração humano é ainda mais forte.
10. No fundo de toda pobreza, existe uma luz que não se apaga.
《微塵世界》
微尘》（也常被称作「微尘世界」），作者是陈年喜（前矿山爆破工、诗人），一本写底层劳动者的非虚构文集。
✍️ 全书重点
• 写谁：矿山工人、木匠、割漆工、农民、底层打工人——如微尘般渺小、沉默、被忽略的人。
• 写什么：
◦ 地下五千米的危险、粉尘、生死日常
◦ 微薄收入、工伤、尘肺病、亲人离别
◦ 但也写：尊严、亲情、乡愁、唱歌、写诗、在岩壁画花——苦难里的光
• 核心句：
再低微的骨头里也有江河。
💡 三大启示
1. 卑微≠无价值
每个人都像微尘，但都有不可剥夺的尊严、情感与力量。生命的价值不在地位，而在如何活着、如何坚守。
2. 看见沉默的大多数
繁华之下，有无数人在负重前行。这本书让我们平视底层，不是同情，而是理解：我们都是时代里的微尘。
3. 认清生活，依然热爱
真实的生活充满艰辛，但不沮丧、不放弃、在尘埃里寻找光，就是最朴素的英雄主义。
一句话总结
纵使卑微如尘，也要热烈、有尊严、有温度地活着。
《微尘》经典金句精选
1. 再低微的骨头里也有江河。
2. 我们都是微尘，被风吹着，在人间晃一晃。
3. 生活这个东西，你不低头，它就永远压不垮你。
4. 人间的苦，大多是无声的。
5. 我在尘埃里活着，也在尘埃里爱着。
6. 所谓命运，不过是在尘土里挣扎，在尘土里安生。
7. 人活着，就是把苦嚼碎了，咽下去，再继续往前走。
8. 每一个平凡的生命，都有不为人知的重量。
9. 大地沉默，却收留所有苦难与荣光。
10. 尘埃虽小，聚在一起，便是人间。
2026-04-08
《The Let Them Theory 》
《The Let Them Theory》（随他们去） 是梅尔·罗宾斯（Mel Robbins）2024年的畅销心理自助书。
一、核心主旨
停止消耗能量去控制你无法控制的人和事，把力量拿回自己身上。
• 痛苦来源：总想控制别人的想法、评价、行为、情绪
• 解决方案：Let Them（随他们去）+ Let Me（由我主导） 双轨心态
二、Let Them（核心第一部分）
接纳、放手、划清边界
• Let them think what they want：不在乎他人评价、不寻求认可
• Let them do what they do：允许别人做选择、不试图改变他人
• Let them feel what they feel：不卷入他人 drama、不负责他人情绪
• Let them have their life：别人的人生是他们的课题，不是你的责任
三、Let Me（关键第二部分）
不是冷漠，而是转向自我负责
• Let me focus on what I control：只专注自己的思想、行动、选择
• Let me define my worth：自我价值不靠外界定义
• Let me take action：主动追求想要的生活、关系、目标
• Let me set boundaries：建立健康界限，保护自己的平静
四、书中8大应用（重点）
1. 管理压力：放下对失控事件的焦虑
2. 不怕别人看法：摆脱讨好、怕被评判
3. 应对负面反应：不被他人情绪带偏
4. 停止攀比：不拿自己和别人比较
5. 经营成人友谊：放下控制，建立舒服关系
6. 影响他人改变：用身教而非说教
7. 帮助挣扎的人：支持但不拯救、不背负
8. 获得值得的爱：在关系里做自己、不委屈
五、一句话总结
你唯一能控制的是自己。Let them 还他人自由，Let me 给自己解放。
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