2026-10-27

《終身成長》(Mindset: The New Psychology of Success)

Book Review: Mindset: The New Psychology of Success

Author: Carol S. Dweck


Mindset is a landmark work exploring two core belief systems that shape human achievement: the fixed mindset and the growth mindset.


People with a fixed mindset believe intelligence, talent and personal traits are innate and unchangeable. They avoid challenges for fear of exposing weaknesses, view failure as proof of inadequacy, and see effort as a sign they are not naturally gifted.


By contrast, those with a growth mindset hold the view that abilities can be developed through learning, practice and persistence. They embrace difficulties, treat setbacks as opportunities to improve, and value progress over instant praise.


Drawing on decades of psychological experiments and real‑life examples across education, sport, business and relationships, Dweck demonstrates that mindset, rather than raw talent, often decides how far a person can go. This book invites readers to recognise their own mental biases and reshape their thinking for lifelong growth.


突破思維邊界,讓人生擁有無限可能


書名:《終身成長》(Mindset: The New Psychology of Success)

作者:【美】卡蘿爾·德韋克(Carol S. Dweck)


真正限制人生高度的,從來不是天賦、起點或際遇,而是隱藏在大腦深處的思維模式。斯坦福大學心理學教授卡蘿爾·德韋克耗時數十年,透過海量實驗與跨領域案例研究,在《終身成長》一書中,拆解出人類成長的核心密碼——固定型思維與成長型思維的二元對立,顛覆了大眾對「天賦與成功」的固有認知,也為普通人的自我迭代、終身進化提供了科學且可落地的底層邏輯。


本書最核心的價值,是打破了「能力天生、命運既定」的偏執認知。德韋克明確界定兩種截然不同的人生思維,這兩種思維模式,決定了人們面對挑戰、失敗、努力與他人優勢時的所有選擇,最終拉開人生的巨大差距。


固定型思維,是多數人深陷平庸的根源。持有這種思維的人,篤定智力、天賦、性格都是與生俱來、恆定不變的特質。他們的一生都在「證明自己」:執著於外界的評價,熱衷於展示天賦、规避瑕疵,懼怕所有可能暴露不足的挑戰。在他們眼中,失敗是能力的終局否定,而非短暫狀態;努力是平庸者的無效掙扎,聰明人無需費力即可成事。一旦遭遇挫折、落後於人,便會陷入自我懷疑、消極擺爛,為自己的止步不前找盡藉口,最終畫地為牢,困在固有的認知與能力邊界中難以前行。


而成長型思維,是終身進步的核心動力。擁有這種思維的人,信奉「能力可塑、潛力無限」,認為天賦只是起點,而非終點,所有技能、認知、心智都能透過持續學習與刻意練習不斷進化。他們從不懼怕挑戰,反而將困境、失敗、挫折視為成長的契機;他們不忌諱自己的不足,敢於接納短板、主動求助、直面錯誤;他們尊重天賦,但更篤信努力的價值,專注於過程的積累,而非一時的結果與榮耀。對他們而言,人生從無定局,每一次磨練,都是重塑自我、拓展邊界的機會。


不同於心靈雞湯式的空泛勵志,《終身成長》的所有觀點,都建立在嚴謹的心理學實證之上。作者橫跨教育、商業、體育、職場、人際關係等多個領域,以網球名將麥肯羅、企業創業者、普通學生、職場人士等真實案例,對比兩種思維帶來的截然不同的人生走向,清晰印證:決定一個人能走多遠的,從來不是初始天賦,而是是否擁有持續成長的思維與勇氣。天賦可以讓人短暫領先,但唯有成長型思維,能支撐人跨越低谷、突破極限,實現長期主義的成功。


閱讀本書最大的啟示,在於它讓人學會「自我覺察與自我重塑」。多數人並非單一的思維體系,而是兩種思維的混合體:面對擅長的領域自信從容,面對陌生的挑戰便陷入固定型思維的怯懦與逃避。而終身成長的本質,就是一場持續的思維修煉:覺察自己的消極認知,放下對完美、天賦、評價的執著,接納人生的不完美與進步的滯後性,把「我做不到」轉化為「我暫時還做不到」,把「害怕失敗」轉化為「練習成長」。


在這個瞬息萬變、迭代加速的時代,穩定從來不是常態,成長才是唯一的安全感。真正的終身成長,從不是被動的年齡累積,而是主動的認知升級、心智成熟、能力迭代。《終身成長》這本書,從未告訴我們如何速成成功,卻教會我們如何擁有穿越周期、終身進化的底層能力。


人生最大的幸運,不是與生俱來的天賦,而是擁有敢於突破自我、持續成長的思維。打破固定認知的枷鎖,擁抱不斷進化的自己,方能在漫長的人生旅途中,打破局限、超越過往,收穫無限的可能性。


2026-10-26

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 村上春树的爱情真相:相遇有幸,离散无常

Nobody ever teaches you to grieve, you just have to carry the quiet loss alone.

2026-10-25

《The Great Alone》(《偉大的孤獨》)

 《The Great Alone》(《偉大的孤獨》)

作者:克莉絲汀·漢娜(Kristin Hannah)

本書以一九七四年阿拉斯加荒野為舞台,講述奧爾布萊特一家的生存與蛻變。越戰戰俘出身的父親恩特飽受創傷後壓力症候群折磨,情緒反覆不定,在再度失業之後,衝動決定攜妻女遷往阿拉斯加偏遠之地,希望藉由邊境荒野逃離過往創傷,重新展開生活。十三歲少女蕾妮夾在父母激烈動盪的婚姻之中,暗自期盼這片土地可以救贖自己的家庭;母親蔻拉則為愛不計代價,願意追隨丈夫奔赴未知的曠野。


初抵阿拉斯加,當地居民熱情互助,長晝與遼闊風景似乎帶來曙光。然而漫長寒冬降臨、長達十八小時的黑夜籠罩大地,恩特的精神狀態持續惡化,家庭內部的暴力與猜忌逐步爆發。書中點明:阿拉斯加不會改變人,只會將人內在的本質徹底顯露。荒野的險境固然殘酷,但真正致命的威脅,其實來自家庭內部未癒的創傷、控制與家暴循環。


這不只是求生故事,更是少女的成長史,刻畫母女之間堅韌的羈絆、創傷代代傳遞的重量,以及女性於孤立環境之中自救的力量。作者筆下阿拉斯加風景瑰麗又冷峻,環境描寫極具畫面感,以曠野襯托人性幽暗,探討愛的執迷、恐懼、韌性與歸屬。題材沉重真實,情緒張力強烈,讀完久久難以釋懷,是一部叩問生存意義的經典歷史小說。


English Book Review


The Great Alone

Author: Kristin Hannah

Set in the Alaskan wilderness in 1974, this novel recounts the Allbright family’s struggle for survival and transformation. Ernt Allbright, a former Vietnam prisoner of war haunted by untreated PTSD, is volatile and unstable. After losing yet another job, he makes an impulsive choice to move his wife and daughter into remote Alaska, hoping the frontier will help him escape his trauma and rebuild their lives. Thirteen‑year‑old Leni is trapped amid her parents’ tempestuous marriage, quietly hoping this new land may save her family. Her mother Cora is willing to follow the man she loves into the wilderness, no matter what risks lie ahead.


At first, the local community offers kindness, and the bright summer days seem promising. Yet when winter arrives and eighteen‑hour darkness settles over the land, Ernt’s mental health deteriorates rapidly, unleashing violence and paranoia within the cabin. The book delivers a piercing observation: Alaska does not transform people; it merely reveals who they truly are. Though the wilderness is merciless, the gravest danger comes from unresolved trauma, manipulation and the cycle of domestic abuse inside their home.


Far more than an adventure of survival, this is a powerful coming‑of‑age narrative. It portrays the resilient bond between mother and daughter, intergenerational trauma, and women’s capacity to rescue themselves under isolation. Hannah writes vivid, atmospheric landscapes of Alaska, using the wild terrain as a mirror for humanity’s inner darkness. It explores obsessive love, fear, endurance and the search for belonging. Heavy and emotionally gripping, this classic historical fiction lingers long after the final page.


Introdução em Português (Português Europeu)


A Grande Solidão

Autora: Kristin Hannah

Este romance decorre no deserto selvagem do Alasca, em 1974, e narra a luta da família Allbright pela sobrevivência e transformação. Ernt Allbright, antigo prisioneiro de guerra do Vietname atormentado por um transtorno de stress pós‑traumático, tem um comportamento instável. Após perder mais um emprego, decide de forma impulsiva mudar‑se com a esposa e a filha para uma zona remota do Alasca, esperando que a fronteira selvagem o ajude a fugir dos seus traumas e reconstruir a sua vida. Leni, treze anos, vive presa ao casamento tempestuoso dos pais, alimentando a esperança de que esta nova terra possa salvar a sua família. A mãe, Cora, está disposta a seguir o homem que ama até ao desconhecido, independentemente dos riscos.


No início, a comunidade local acolhe‑os com generosidade e os longos dias de verão parecem trazer esperança. Contudo, quando chega o inverno e a escuridão cobre o local durante dezoito horas por dia, o estado mental de Ernt agrava‑se, libertando violência e paranóia dentro da cabana. O livro apresenta uma observação marcante: o Alasca não muda as pessoas, apenas revela a sua verdadeira essência. Embora a natureza seja implacável, o perigo mais mortal provém dos traumas não resolvidos, da manipulação e do ciclo de violência doméstica no lar.


Mais do que uma história de sobrevivência, é uma intensa narrativa de amadurecimento. Descreve o vínculo resistente entre mãe e filha, o trauma transgeracional e a capacidade feminina de se salvar em circunstâncias de isolamento. Kristin Hannah descreve paisagens vívidas e atmosféricas do Alasca, usando a paisagem selvagem como espelho da escuridão humana. Explora o amor obsessivo, o medo, a resistência e a procura de pertença. De tema pesado e forte carga emocional, esta obra de ficção histórica permanece na memória do leitor muito depois da leitura terminar.


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中國優秀電影Excellent Chinese Movies

 《消失的人》《年會不能停!2》


一、《消失的人》

《消失的人》

本片改編自懸疑文學作品《海葵》,屬多線敘事之社會懸疑電影。故事發生於一棟舊式住宅大廈,三宗離奇事件彼此交織:孩童憑空失蹤、獨居女子屢受滋擾、埋藏多年的罪案秘密逐步浮現。影片以縝密鋪排刻畫人性之中的陰暗、逃避與貪婪,不依賴突發驚嚇畫面,而是藉由日常細節鋪設心理壓迫感,揭示平凡生活表層之下潛藏的罪惡與荒謬。


English

The Vanished One

Adapted from the suspense novel Sea Anemone, this socially-oriented thriller adopts multi-thread narrative. Set within an old apartment building, three bizarre storylines intertwine: a child vanishes without trace, a lone woman suffers persistent harassment, and criminal secrets buried for years gradually surface. Meticulously constructed, the film portrays human darkness, evasion and avarice. Rather than relying on jump-scare visuals, it builds psychological oppression through mundane details, unearthing evil and absurdity concealed beneath the surface of ordinary life.


Português Europeu

O Desaparecido

Adaptado do romance de suspense Anémona do Mar, este thriller social recorre a uma narrativa com várias linhas de história. A ação decorre num prédio residencial antigo, onde três acontecimentos estranhos se entrelaçam: uma criança desaparece sem deixar rasto, uma mulher solitária é repetidamente incomodada e segredos de crimes ocultados há anos vêm à luz. Com uma construção cuidada, o filme retrata a escuridão humana, a fuga e a cobiça. Em vez de recorrer a cenas de susto, cria uma opressão psicológica através de pormenores quotidianos, revelando o mal e o absurdo escondidos sob a superfície da vida comum.


二、《年會不能停!2》

《年會不能停!2》

人氣職場喜劇續作,引入時間循環設定。故事講述一心尋求升遷的基層員工劉奔,與飽歷職場冷暖的資深同事馬傑意外結伴,一同墜入不斷重置的時間迴圈。二人於無數次重複嘗試之中,持續對抗企業形式主義、職場內卷、虛假績效與階層不公;電影以荒誕詼諧的筆觸諷刺當代職場種種弊病,最終令主角醒悟工作與人生的真正價值。


English

Annual Meeting Can’t Stop! 2

This popular workplace comedy sequel introduces a time-loop premise. It follows Liu Ben, a junior employee eager for promotion, and Ma Jie, a seasoned colleague hardened by corporate setbacks. The pair are thrown together by chance and trapped inside a perpetually resetting time loop. Across countless repeated attempts, they confront corporate formalism, workplace involution, fabricated performance indicators and hierarchical injustice. With absurd, witty satire on the ills of modern office culture, the film leads its protagonists to realise the true value of work and life.


Português Europeu

A Reunião Anual Não Pode Parar! 2

Esta sequência de comédia corporativa popular introduz o conceito de ciclo temporal. A história acompanha Liu Ben, um funcionário da base ansioso por subir na carreira, e Ma Jie, um colega experiente marcado pelas dificuldades do mundo empresarial. Os dois unem-se por acaso e ficam presos num ciclo que reinicia sem parar. Em inúmeras tentativas repetidas, enfrentam o formalismo empresarial, a competição excessiva, indicadores de desempenho falsos e a desigualdade hierárquica. Com um humor absurdo e espirituoso que satiriza os males do ambiente de trabalho contemporâneo, o filme faz os protagonistas compreenderem o verdadeiro valor do trabalho e da vida.

粉嶺流水響水塘|交通、時程、路線重點記要

天空之城



一、景點簡介


流水響水塘位於香港新界八仙嶺郊野公園,有「港版天空之鏡」之稱。湖面平靜、林蔭清幽、路線極為平緩,零難度、老少皆宜,適合輕鬆漫遊、呼吸郊野空氣、拍照賞湖景。

開放:24小時免費開放

遊玩適時:全年適合,12月–1月為落羽松最佳觀賞期


二、完整交通路線(最穩定、省心公共交通)


1. 港鐵東鐵線 → 粉嶺站 C出口出站


2. 出站即達小巴總站,搭乘 52B 綠色專線小巴(往鶴藪圍)


3. 車資:HK$6.3(可八達通、現金)


4. 車程:約15分鐘


5. 下車點:流水響道迴旋處(八仙嶺郊野公園入口)


6. 落車後沿柏油路直行步行 10–12分鐘,直達水塘岸邊


小巴營運資訊


• 營運時間:05:50–20:20


• 班次:15–25分鐘一班


• 備註:周末人多,可能短時間排隊,為全日唯一直達公共交通


三、建議遊玩時程(輕鬆慢遊版)


1. 交通來回:含候車、步行合計約1小時


2. 水塘環湖漫遊、賞景、休息拍照:1.5–2小時


3. 全程總耗時:約2.5–3小時(不趕路、非常舒適)


最佳遊覽時段


早上光線柔和、人少清靜;下午3點後倒影最清晰,「天空之鏡」效果最佳;正午較曬,建議避開。


四、路線特點(重點優勢)


1. 全程平路無斜路、無樓梯,屬香港最輕鬆郊遊路線


2. 柏油路完善、標示清晰,極不易迷路


3. 沿途樹蔭充足、空氣清新,環境寧靜


4. 設施完整:設有公共洗手間、涼亭、休息區


5. 人流量溫和,不擁擠,適合靜心散步


五、回程方式


原路折返:水塘步行返回迴旋處,搭乘 52B小巴 返回粉嶺港鐵站即可。


六、注意事項


1. 郊野區域遮陰雖多,仍需備水、遮陽帽


2. 穿普通舒服步行鞋即可,無需行山鞋


3. 現非落羽松旺季,主要觀賞湖景、森林倒影


4. 無公共停車場,不建議自駕,公共交通最方便


5. 全程安全度極高,適合長者輕郊遊


 流水響水塘 → 聯和墟(兩個方案)


方案A(最簡單,推薦):坐52B小巴直接到粉嶺站,再轉去聯和墟


1. 水塘行返到流水響迴旋處,搭52B小巴返粉嶺站總站


2. 粉嶺站落車後,可以:


◦ 步行:由粉嶺站行去聯和墟,約15分鐘;


◦ 轉小巴/巴士:粉嶺站轉車,幾個站就到聯和墟總站。


方案B(唔想繞粉嶺站):52B小巴中途落車,轉巴士往聯和墟

優點:少繞路;缺點:周末候車要睇班次。


備註:郊遊完比較攰,建議選方案A,先返粉嶺站,再過聯和墟,路線最穩陣,唔會搵錯站。


簡單記要

• 郊遊完:流水響迴旋處搭52B返粉嶺站,再轉交通去聯和墟;


2026-10-24

Saturday lunch 2.0

 


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彩香園招牌摩羅雞飯48元

老火中式湯13 元

Banana

1、banana oil:花言巧语

2、top banana:一把手

3、split bananas:火冒三丈

4、second banana:副手

5、banana fingers:小胖手

6、banana skin:麻烦事

7、banana brain:脑子笨

8、banana head:呆头呆脑

9、go bananas:暴怒失控

美味鮮牛肉湯河@ 夏灣

 

20 元人民幣

"Anna Karenina"

 《安娜·卡列尼娜》精選名句|

作者:列夫·托爾斯泰 Leo Tolstoy


名句一(開卷名言)


中文:幸福的家庭都是相似的,不幸的家庭各有各的不幸。

English:Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.

Português (Portugal):Todas as famílias felizes se parecem; cada família infeliz é infeliz à sua maneira.


名句二


中文:人並不是因為理性才活著,而是因為激情。

English:Human beings live not by reason alone, but by passion.

Português (Portugal):Os seres humanos não vivem apenas pela razão, mas pela paixão.


名句三


中文:愛情如果不是全部,就什麼都不是。

English:If love is not everything, then it is nothing.

Português (Portugal):Se o amor não é tudo, então não é nada.


名句四


中文:生命的真正意義,不在於外在的一切,而在於靈魂之中。

English:The true meaning of life lies not in outward things, but within the soul.

Português (Portugal):O verdadeiro sentido da vida não reside no que é exterior, mas na alma.


名句五


中文:我們最容易原諒自己的,往往正是那些我們無法原諒於他人的過錯。

English:We readily excuse in ourselves the very faults we cannot forgive in others.

Português (Portugal):Facilmente perdoamos em nós mesmos as mesmas falhas que não conseguimos perdoar nos outros.


Book Review: Anna Karenina

Author: Leo Tolstoy

Introduction

Anna Karenina, completed in 1877, stands as one of the masterpieces of Russian realist literature. The novel adopts a dual‑narrative structure to unfold the panorama of Russian society in the late nineteenth century.


The primary narrative follows Anna, an aristocratic woman trapped within a cold, loveless marriage to the senior official Karenin. After meeting the officer Vronsky, she resolves to cast aside marital constraints to pursue genuine affection. Nevertheless, the high society of her era operated under a hypocritical double standard: indiscretions committed by men were quietly tolerated, while Anna was publicly condemned for her choice. Gradually, she is ostracised from social circles, separated from her son, and her passionate love decays amid suspicion and quarrels, culminating in tragedy.


Running parallel to Anna’s story is the arc of Levin, a country landowner. Levin returns to his estate to manage rural affairs and endlessly contemplates the meaning of existence, agricultural reform, faith and morality. His spiritual quest forms a sharp contrast to Anna’s self‑destruction driven by passion.


Core Themes


1. Hypocrisy and double standards within society

The aristocratic world abounded with secret affairs, yet it reserved judgement exclusively for Anna’s open pursuit of love. Social conventions were not universal moral principles, but instruments of class discrimination.


2. Conflict between passion and duty

Tolstoy neither glorifies romantic passion unconditionally nor simply condemns Anna. He portrays passion as a force capable of awakening one’s vitality; yet when severed from real‑world responsibilities, passion may easily lead to ruin.


3. The essence of family happiness

The famous opening line, “Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way”, establishes the central inquiry of the book: what constitutes lasting happiness in marriage, and how fleeting infatuation differs from sustainable companionship.


4. Search for the meaning of life

Levin’s storyline carries the author’s philosophical meditation: how human beings may attain inner peace while living within the secular world.


Strengths


Tolstoy demonstrates extraordinary skill in psychological portrayal, penetrating deeply into characters’ inner conflicts, jealousy, fear and longing. None of his figures are simplified into pure heroes or villains; each is rendered with full human complexity. The work functions like a social encyclopaedia, depicting both urban aristocrats and rural peasants, faithfully capturing a nation undergoing transformation. Its reflections on marriage, freedom and morality remain thought‑provoking for modern readers.


Limitations


The book is lengthy, interspersed with extended philosophical and agricultural discussions that slow the narrative rhythm, which may frustrate first‑time readers. The author’s personal moral stance permeates the narration, and readers often arrive at divergent interpretations of Anna’s fate.


Conclusion


Anna Karenina is far more than a romantic tragedy. It constitutes a profound examination of humanity, class and the consequences of personal choice. Anna is both a rebel against a hypocritical social order and a victim trapped between passion and the constraints of her times. This classic is recommended for readers willing to meditate on human nature, marriage and moral boundaries.

Rating: 4.5 / 5

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