2026-09-05

《The Power of Ignored Skills》

 《The Power of Ignored Skills》


作者:Manoj Tripathi


書的重點


本書的核心命題:世人過度追逐亮眼、可量化的專業技能,卻忽略一類平實、無光環、很少被課堂與職場教導的隱性能力,而這些被忽視的技能,才是長期成就、人際、決策與幸福真正的分水嶺。


作者歸納九大關鍵的被忽視技能:


1. 觀察力 Observation

不是被動地看,而是主動地深究,察覺旁人容易漏掉的細節、隱藏的模式。很多突破,來自細微的觀察,而非宏大的理論。


2. 連結脈絡 Connecting‑the‑Dots

看懂不同事件背後潛在的因果鏈,不孤立地看待資訊,養成系統思考。單一數據容易誤人,脈絡才能揭示真相。


3. 溝通力 Communication

重點不在口才,而在語氣、分寸、傾聽、簡潔傳達。語言只是包裝,情緒與態度才是訊息本身。主動傾聽,是極少人精通的超級能力。


4. 使命感 Purpose

金錢只能驅動一時,內在的意義感,可延長人堅持的時間,甚至有益身心。長遠來看,使命感的回報遠勝薪水。


5. 想像力 Dreams

不是空想,是跳出既有框架,為未來設想另一種可能。常規方法有極限,偶爾不合理的新思路,才能打開新的邊界。


6. 跳出常規思考 Out‑of‑the‑box Thinking

勇於質疑預設,不盲從多數人的慣例。很多盲點,源於我們不加思索就接受的常識。


7. 堅毅 Perseverance

天賦讓人被看見,不肯放棄,才讓人走到最後。耐心是這個即時滿足時代最稀缺的競爭優勢。


8. 深度鑽研 Deep‑Diving

願意沉潛,花時間弄懂一件事的底層邏輯,而不是淺嘗輒止。淺薄的知識無法帶來真正的競爭壁壘。


9. 預見力 Prediction

學會辨識趨勢,同時察覺趨勢即將轉折的拐點,不要簡單直線外推未來,避免倖存者偏差帶來的誤判。


書中一項重要的統計引述:一個人長遠的成就,大約85%取決於人格、溝通、人際、韌性這類軟技能,只有15%來自純粹的專業知識。被忽略的技能,恰恰就在那85%之中。


閱讀啟示


1. 我們最容易低估的能力,往往是那些「太理所當然,以為人人都會」的事。正因為它不起眼,多數人不刻意修煉,反而變成少數人的競爭護城河。


2. 技能有兩種:一種用來讓你入場,一種用來讓你走得很遠。硬技能負責敲門,被忽視的軟技能負責撐起整段旅程。


3. 想要改善人生,不必總是追逐新潮、熱門的才藝。有時只要認真打磨傾聽、耐心、觀察、堅持,回報就會慢慢累積、複利放大。


4. 不要只用薪資、名聲、曝光量來衡量一種能力的價值。很多最強大的力量,安靜無聲,延遲很久才顯現效果。


5. 自我成長的一條捷徑:定期問自己,有哪些能力我一直忽略,但只要稍加練習,就可以改善決策、關係與日常。


Quotes

1.

我們總追逐耀眼的才華,卻常常忽略,安靜的能力,最能撐起長遠的人生。

We always chase brilliant talents, yet we often overlook that quiet abilities sustain life in the long run.

Procuramos sempre talentos brilhantes, mas esquecemos frequentemente que as capacidades silenciosas sustentam a vida a longo prazo.


觀看是被動的,觀察卻是主動的,足以察見眾人看不見的模式。

Watching is passive, observation is active enough to spot patterns unseen by others.

Ver é passivo, observar é ativo, suficiente para detetar padrões invisíveis aos outros.


語氣承載訊息,言辭只不過是外在的包裝。

Tone carries the message, words are merely outer packaging.

O tom carrega a mensagem, as palavras são apenas a embalagem exterior.


硬技能協助你入場,被忽視的軟技能,決定你能夠走多遠。

Hard‑skills get you in the door. Ignored soft‑skills decide how far you may go.

As competências técnicas abrem‑te a porta. As competências negligenciadas definem até onde podes chegar.


許多力量從不喧嘩,它們的回報,往往遲遲而至。

Much power never makes noise. Its rewards usually arrive late.

Muita força não faz barulho. As suas recompensas costumam chegar tarde.

2026-09-04

Pansy Ho(何超瓊)金句


出身只是一張入場券,不是一張通行證,真正的尊重,要自己一步一步去爭取。

Birth is merely an admission ticket, not a pass. True respect must be earned, step by step.

A origem é apenas um bilhete de entrada, não um passe. O verdadeiro respeito tem de ser conquistado, passo a passo.


壓力最大的時候,永遠先去做最難的那件事。

When the pressure is greatest, always tackle the hardest task first.

Quando a pressão é maior, enfrenta sempre primeiro o que é mais difícil.


你可以認識全世界所有的人,但那又如何,最重要的,還是你自己是一個怎樣的人。

You may know people across the whole world, yet that means little. What truly matters is who you are.

Podes conhecer pessoas de todo o mundo, mas e depois? O que realmente importa é quem tu és.


真正的爭取,不是搶奪現成資源,而是主動展現誠意、能力與擔當,用自身價值,換取別人的認可。

To strive sincerely is not to seize ready‑made resources, but to show good faith, competence and responsibility, and earn recognition through your own worth.

A verdadeira luta não é apropriar‑se de recursos prontos, mas demonstrar sinceridade, capacidade e compromisso, conquistando o reconhecimento pelo próprio valor.


不要讓別人的標籤,定義你一生的價值。

Do not let labels from others define your lifelong worth.

Não deixes que os rótulos dos outros definam o teu valor ao longo da vida.

Line dance - Rum & Coke

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E4Vkqdev91s

《The Catalyst: How to Change Anyone’s Mind》

 《The Catalyst: How to Change Anyone’s Mind》


作者:Jonah Berger(喬納·伯傑,華頓商學院教授)


Book Review 

In The Catalyst: How to Change Anyone’s Mind, Jonah Berger challenges our common‑sense belief that pressure and persuasion drive change.

The core insight is elegant yet powerful: people rarely shift their views when pushed. Real transformation happens when barriers are removed. Berger outlines five psychological obstacles, summed up in the acronym REDUCE — reactance, endowment, distance, uncertainty, and corroborating evidence. Each one quietly stops people from rethinking their choices.

Rather than asking “How can I make someone change?”, we should ask “What is holding them back?”. This small shift redefines conversations at home, at work, and within ourselves. To be a catalyst is to listen first, soften resistance, and create space for self‑persuasion. Change, the book reminds us, is not forced. It is unlocked.



Crítica do Livro (Português Europeu)

Em O Catalisador: Como Mudar a Mente de Qualquer Pessoa, Jonah Berger desafia a crença popular de que a pressão e a persuasão provocam a mudança.

A ideia central é simples e profunda: as pessoas raramente alteram as suas opiniões quando são empurradas. A verdadeira transformação surge quando se removem os obstáculos. Berger identifica cinco barreiras psicológicas, resumidas no acrónimo REDUCE — reactância, efeito da dotação, distância, incerteza e evidência corroborante. Cada uma delas, de forma silenciosa, impede as pessoas de repensar as suas decisões.

Em vez de perguntar “Como posso fazer com que alguém mude?”, devemos interrogar‑nos “O que o está a impedir?”. Esta pequena mudança redefine as conversas, em casa, no trabalho e dentro de nós próprios. Ser um catalisador significa, antes de tudo, ouvir, atenuar a resistência e abrir espaço para a autopersuasão. A mudança, como o livro nos lembra, não é forçada. É desbloqueada.



書的核心重點


本書借用化學「催化劑」的概念:催化劑不會施加更多能量,只會移除障礙,讓反應自然發生。

人性亦是如此,愈用力說服、施壓,人愈容易抗拒;真正促成改變,不在推動,而在減少阻力。


作者歸納阻礙人改變的五大心理障礙,首字母組成 REDUCE:


1. Reactance 心理抗拒

人重視自主,一旦感到被操控,本能就會反駁。不要直接命令,改用提問、給予選擇,讓人覺得決定出於自己。


2. Endowment 稟賦效應

人執著現狀,珍惜自己既有的觀念、習慣與生活。與其大談改變的好處,不如點明「維持現狀的代價」,更容易打動人。


3. Distance 距離

當一個想法與自身認知差距太大,人會直接忽略。改變要由淺入深,由小共識開始,逐步拉近觀念的距離,不要一次提出過大的跳躍。


4. Uncertainty 不確定性

未知令人怯步。人不怕改變,怕改變之後的壞結果。提供細小、低風險的嘗試機會,降低猶疑。


5. Corroborating Evidence 佐證證據

單一論據說服力有限。當他人、周遭社群也做出類似選擇,人更容易放下固執,順勢調整自己的立場。


一句貫穿全書的關鍵提問:

不要問「我如何令他改變?」

而是問「是什麼,阻止了他改變?」


閱讀啟示


1. 說服的最高境界,不是贏辯論,而是引導他人自我說服。強辯只會加固偏見,包容與留白反而打開心門。


2. 無論是調整自我習慣,或是與家人、朋友、後輩溝通,都適用催化的邏輯:先辨識內心的阻力,再慢慢移除,而非一味硬推。


3. 改變從來不是一場突發的革命,而是一個摩擦慢慢減少的過程。很多人急於看結果,忽略了耐心掃除障礙的價值。


4. 對自己也同樣適用。我們難以改變,往往不是不懂道理,而是害怕損失、害怕未知、害怕失去熟悉的自我。認清自己的心理絆腳石,就是自我成長的第一步。

Dementia

 (I copied this from Dr M San)


I don't Ever want to go into a nursing home, but if  worse comes to  worse and I have no other choice because I'm well out of it, 😁 then these will be my wishes, to be upheld and respected. 😁😁

If I ever get dementia, I’d like my family to hang this wish list up on the wall where I live. I want them to remember these things.

1. Every time you enter the room announce yourself. “Hi- it’s ………...” NEVER ask-  Do you know who I am???  That causes anxiety. 

2. If I get dementia, I want my friends and family to embrace my reality. 🌸 Careers included. 

3. If I think my dead friend is still alive, or if I think we’re visiting my parents for dinner, let me believe those things. I’ll be much happier for it.❤️

4. If I get dementia, don’t argue with me about what is true for me versus what is true for you.👍🏽❤️👍🏽

5. If I get dementia, and I am not sure who you are, do not take it personally. My timeline is confusing to me.👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽

6. If I get dementia and can no longer use utensils, do not start feeding me. Instead, switch me to a finger-food diet, and see if I can still feed myself.❤️🥰❤️🥰

7. If I get dementia, and I am sad or anxious, hold my hand and listen. Do not tell me that my feelings are unfounded.

8. If I get dementia, I don’t want to be treated like a child. Talk to me like the adult that I am. ❤️

9. If I get dementia, I still want to enjoy the things that I’ve always enjoyed. Help me find a way to exercise, read, and visit with friends. ❤️

10. If I get dementia, ask me to tell you a story from my past.

11. If I get dementia, and I become agitated, take the time to figure out what is bothering me. ❤️

12. If I get dementia, treat me the way that you would want to be treated. ❤️

13. If I get dementia, make sure that there are plenty of snacks for me in the house. Even now if I don’t eat I get angry, and if I have dementia, I may have trouble explaining what I need.❤️

14. If I get dementia, don’t talk about me as if I’m not in the room.👍🏽

15. If I get dementia, don’t feel guilty if you cannot care for me 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. It’s not your fault, and you’ve done your best. Find someone who can help you, or choose a great new place for me to live.👍🏽

16. If I get dementia, and I live in a dementia care community, please visit me often.❤️

17. If I get dementia, don’t act frustrated if I mix up names, events, or places. Take a deep breath. It’s not my fault.👍🏽

18. If I get dementia, make sure I always have my favorite music playing within earshot.❤️❤️❤️

19. If I get dementia, and I like to pick up items and carry them around, help me return those items to their original place.👍🏽

20. If I get dementia, don’t exclude me from parties and family gatherings.❤️

21. If I get dementia, know that I still like receiving hugs and plenty of laughing ❤️🥰❤️

22. If I get dementia, remember that I am still the person you know and love.”🌼❤️

In honor of someone you know or knew who has dementia. In Honor of all those I know and love and lost who are fighting Dementia/Alzheimer’s.

Someone once said if you take care of someone with dementia, you lose them more and more every day. When they get the diagnosis, when they go through different stages, when they need treatment, and when they pass away. 

This is called "the longest goodbye ". As the brain slowly dies, they change physically and eventually forget who their loved ones are. They could end up lying in bed, not moving and not eating or drinking.

There will be people who will scroll past this post because dementia has not touched them. They may not know what it's like to have a loved one who has battled or is still battling dementia.

To raise awareness of this cruel disease, I would like my friends to put this on their page today.

Hold your finger on the post to copy and paste to your timeline.

A special thank you to anyone willing to put this on their timeline for Dementia Awareness Week.

💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜 

2026-09-03

澳門鑊氣夠、性價比高的大牌檔


一、氹仔(住銀河、新濠、威尼斯人首選)


1. 火記飯店·海鮮小炒(氹仔店)⭐首選


📍氹仔南新花園第六座疊記旁邊

⏰11:00–凌晨03:00|人均¥117

✅優點:氹仔高分大牌檔,環境乾淨有冷氣,海鮮現撈,避風塘系列鑊氣極足;有團購套餐,本地人同遊客都認可,價錢在氹仔算平靚正。

✅必點:避風塘斑馬皮皮蝦、椒鹽九肚魚、爆炒花甲、爆炒雙牛肉


2. 七彩大排檔(地道宵夜,街坊飯堂)


📍氹仔潮州街36號金利達花園地下

⏰16:00–凌晨04:00|人均¥121

✅優點:隱身住宅區,夜晚爆滿,大部分是本地人;椒鹽菜式做得極好,咸蛋黃炒蝦外酥內嫩,適合宵夜飲酒小聚。

✅必點:咸蛋黃炒蝦、椒鹽九肚魚、椒鹽瀨尿蝦、七彩炒飯


二、澳門半島(大三巴、關閘、筷子基,過關最方便)


1. 紅運大牌檔(平價天花板,關閘附近)⭐最抵食


📍花地瑪堂區和樂街36號宏安大廈

⏰17:00–凌晨02:00|人均¥95(全澳門大牌檔入面最平)

✅優點:純地道街坊店,無遊客溢價,粵式猛火小炒,鑊氣十足;靠近筷子基,過關後打車好近,價錢最貼地。

✅必點:豉椒炒蜆、椒鹽豆腐魚、乾炒牛河、啫啫豬雜


2. 興旺發大排檔(利澳店)(靠近大三巴、漁人碼頭)


📍宋玉生廣場606-J中裕花園地下

⏰午市11:00–14:30;晚市17:00–02:30|人均¥148

✅優點:本地人帶路的老牌檔,水蟹粥同乾炒牛河是招牌;小炒穩定,位置靠近旅遊區,遊完大三巴、漁人碼頭過來剛好,不用跑遠。

✅必點:水蟹粥、乾炒牛肉河、豉油皇炒蝦、椒鹽九肚魚


3. 秋記大排檔(巷仔隱世老店,鑊氣最濃)


📍十月初五街64號巷仔(十六浦後面小巷)

⏰16:30–24:00|人均¥97

✅優點:藏在窄巷入面,幾乎無遊客,老澳門宵夜聖地;炒河粉、椒鹽菜式火候一流,唯一缺點環境簡陋、需要拼桌,勝在味道同價錢夠實惠。

✅必點:頭抽豉油炒河粉、椒鹽九肚魚、涼瓜牛肉、豉椒爆牛肉


三、快速揀店指南(直接對號入座)


1. 住氹仔(銀河/威尼斯人)、要環境乾淨+海鮮小炒 → 火記飯店(首選)


2. 氹仔純宵夜、想體驗街坊排檔氣氛 → 七彩大排檔


3. 關閘過關、追求全澳最平價、純小炒 → 紅運大牌檔(強推)


4. 遊大三巴/漁人碼頭、就近食,唔想走太遠 → 興旺發大排檔


5. 鍾意巷仔老店、追求最濃鑊氣、唔介意環境簡陋 → 秋記大排檔


小貼士


• 海鮮一定要先問時價,小炒類價錢最穩定,性價比最高;


• 澳門大部分大牌檔夜晚9點後開始爆滿,盡量提早到;


• 半島筷子基一帶全是街坊飯堂,遊客最少,價錢普遍比旅遊區平三成。

珠海大牌檔


一、情侶路/吉大(遊海景就近食)


1. 潮熙潮汕海鮮大牌檔(吉大,性價比之王)


📍地址:香洲區海濱南路7號一樓

⏰營業:12:00–24:00

💰人均:¥51

✅亮點:潮汕猛火小炒,完全無預製菜,分量超大,套餐極抵食;靠近愛情郵局,行完海灘過來剛好。

✅必點:爆炒八爪魚、香煎雜魚、蝦蟹砂鍋粥、生腌蝦、蠔仔烙。


2. 發仔大牌檔(吉大,粵式小炒+海鮮)


📍地址:香洲區景山路93號吉大村金昇大廈一層

⏰營業:11:00–22:45

💰人均:¥80

✅亮點:有冷氣,環境乾淨,燒臘同海鮮一齊做;荔枝柴燒雞是招牌,澳門人都專程過來食。

✅必點:荔枝柴燒雞、椒鹽皮皮蝦、花生芽炒爽肉、清蒸海鱸魚。


3. 9號潮旺海鮮大牌檔(愛情郵局旁,海景遊客首選)


📍地址:香洲區景和街71號一樓C區

⏰營業:10:00–22:00

💰人均:¥50

✅亮點:海鮮池現撈,套餐超平,2–3人餐百幾蚊搞掂;環境整潔,適合家庭同遊客。

✅必點:椒鹽皮皮蝦、蒜蓉蒸生蠔、醬爆魷魚筒、海膽炒飯。

二、夏灣(拱北過關、宵夜聖地,本地人飯堂)


1. 二奴仔海門大牌檔(潮汕平價天花板)


📍地址:香洲區夏灣粵華路456號

⏰營業:17:00–03:00

💰人均:¥59

✅亮點:全夏灣最平嘅潮汕大牌檔,海鮮每日海南直送,鑊氣十足,4人餐168元包魚蝦蟹,老饕私藏。

✅必點:薑蔥炒蟹、鐵板九肚魚、潮汕戈飯、砂鍋粥、生腌海鮮。


2. 順風順水海鮮大牌檔(夏灣,明火啫啫煲)


📍地址:夏灣僑光西路169號首層

⏰營業:11:00–03:30

💰人均:¥85

✅亮點:炭爐燒雞爆汁,啫啫鮑魚鑊氣爆棚;有印度飛錶表演,宵夜氣氛一流,免費停車。

✅必點:白切湛江雞、金沙焗羅氏蝦、椒鹽九肚魚、炭燒豬頸肉。


3. 九龍飯店大牌檔(港式粵菜,港風環境)


📍地址:夏灣華平路20-2號

⏰營業:10:15–凌晨01:30

💰人均:¥79

✅亮點:滿滿香港大排檔氣氛,播粵語歌;脆皮燒雞平價好食,啫啫大腸夠鑊氣,適合鍾意港式小炒嘅人。

✅必點:脆皮燒雞、避風塘大蝦、粉絲白貝、豉汁蒸排骨。

三、橫琴(去長隆玩,就近平價海鮮)


漁民碼頭大牌檔(長隆旁,遊玩必選)


📍地址:橫琴寶興路23號(近長隆海洋王國)

⏰營業:10:30–02:00

💰人均:¥75

✅亮點:自漁船直供海鮮,價錢比園內平一半;免費停車,套餐極抵,2人餐90元有魚有蝦有蟹。

✅必點:椒鹽皮皮蝦、清蒸海鱸、蒜蓉烤橫琴蠔、豉椒炒花蛤。


琴鳴海鮮大牌檔(橫琴,人氣高分店)


📍地址:橫琴紅旗村永興街2號

⏰營業:10:30–02:00

💰人均:¥58

✅亮點:4.8高分,海鮮拼盤套餐168元4人食;蠔肉肥美,避風塘炒蟹火候到位,本地人同遊客都推薦。


快速揀店指南


1. 行情侶路、愛情郵局 → 揀【潮熙 / 9號潮旺】


2. 拱北過關、夏灣宵夜、要最平潮汕味 → 首選【二奴仔】


3. 鍾意港式鑊氣小炒、港風環境 → 揀【九龍飯店】


4. 去橫琴長隆玩,想平價食海鮮 → 揀【漁民碼頭】


5. 多人聚餐、要啫啫煲同燒烤氣氛 → 揀【順風順水】

香港大牌檔



🔥 首選:深水埗|愛文生(最經典露天大牌檔)

📍地址:深水埗石硤尾街1號地下B‑C舖

⏰營業時間:17:00–23:45

💰人均:HK$150

✅亮點:路邊明爐爆炒,煙火氣十足,香港碩果僅存的舊式露天大牌檔;本地人與遊客都愛光顧,分量充足,海鮮價錢實惠。

✅必點:黑椒薯仔牛柳粒、豉椒炒蜆子、椒鹽九肚魚、金牌炸大腸、避風塘炒蟹。

⚠️提醒:飯點必排隊,盡量17:30之前到場。


👍 本地人飯堂:大角咀|新錦園大牌檔(市政大廈冷氣檔)

📍地址:大角咀福全街63號大角咀市政大廈2樓

⏰營業時間:11:00–14:30;18:00–24:00

💰人均:HK$195

✅亮點:幾乎全是街坊食客,遊客稀少;有冷氣不怕酷熱,鑊氣小炒水準穩定,性價比極高。

✅必點:家鄉小炒皇、椒鹽九肚魚、豉油皇鵝腸、啫啫滑雞煲、南乳炸豬手。


✅ 土瓜灣|朱敏記大牌檔(分量超大,聚餐首選)

📍地址:土瓜灣馬頭圍道103‑105號新華大廈地舖

⏰營業時間:06:00–02:00(宵夜友好)

💰人均:HK$195

✅亮點:菜量巨大,兩道菜就擺滿一桌;小炒、海鮮、川菜一應俱全,工友聚餐首選,公認性價比很高。

✅必點:胡椒豬雜、紅油蔥油雞、乾鍋魚雜、香辣蟹、菜脯煎蛋。


✅ 新界平價之選:沙田|陳根記大牌檔(近郊平靚正)

📍地址:沙田安群街1號京瑞廣場二期地下G03

⏰營業時間:12:00–23:00

💰人均:HK$159

✅亮點:沙田老牌大牌檔,食材新鮮、鑊氣足,價錢親民,適合住在新界或是遊覽沙田的人。

✅必點:蒜蓉蒸中蝦、豉油雞、椒鹽豆腐、醉翁烏頭魚。


快速揀店指南


1. 想體驗露天街邊煙火氣、打卡舊式大牌檔 → 揀【愛文生】


2. 想避開遊客、坐冷氣、食地道街坊小炒 → 揀【新錦園】


3. 多人聚餐,要超大分量、食得飽 → 揀【朱敏記】


4. 去沙田/新界遊玩,追求平價實惠 → 揀【陳根記】


小提醒


香港大牌檔分兩種:露天街邊檔(愛文生)、市政大廈熟食檔(新錦園),後者有空調,坐得更舒適。

海鮮盡量先查詢時價,小炒類價格最穩定,性價比最高。


如果你話我知有幾個人、會去九龍抑或港島、要不要露天,我可以直接幫你鎖定最合適的一間。

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